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Saturday, October 8, 2022

Tribute to Mother's Love of Cats

Now this is not really a blog and I'm not putting it here except for one reason: I want her love of animals an understanding to be documented for a long time. BEWARE! It is LONG! She was overly wordy and descriptive BUT it will express to whoever reads it how very loving she was to all in her realm.

One request from me: IF you are unable to take some time to read this story, please just don't start it. The ending is the most sensitive and amazing conclusion.

Actual crystal chest on windowsill.

IF you will read this whole writing I will give you a gold star! My mother wrote about her memories as she aged and I have saved them in their original form - typed on onion skin paper with an OLD typewriter. After scanning and then re-typing her stories I know why I like to write memories and I know why I love animals.  The cat named "Goldie" was my first gift from my dad. Mother is very descriptive and writes truthfully - and writes long stories. She was never publicly published except in church and a senior retirement home newsletter. This is just one of many. It's my favorite! (I haven't changed a single word or any thing else.) 

  1. Tootsie
  2. Teddy
  3. Peter
  4. Goldie
  5. Lucky
  6. Topaz
  7. Sandy
  8. Patty
  9. Frostee
  10. Boxer
  11. Dusty
  12. Velvet
  13. Friendly
  14. Rusty

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Pauline F. Nulton   (b 1914 - d 2005)

Budd Lake, NJ

Written 03-14-91


FOURTEEN CATS AGO


It all began with “Tootsie.” A lonely little girl recovering from pneumonia in the mid-twenties had little to occupy her time. She was not allowed strenuous physical activities, couldn’t yet go back to school, and lived in a small country town with few playmates her age.

She pleaded with her parents many times to please let her have a pet of some sort. She had come into their lives rather later than was usual and it was understandable that they did not want the bother of having to look after a pet even though they wanted so much to please their daughter.

After many weeks of indecision, however, they relented and brought home a small gray kitten with four white paws for their daughter’s enjoyment. Of course what happened after that was not unexpected. The kitten grew up, did what all lady cats do, and one bright morning the family awoke to hear tiny squeals coming from the padded box in the hall. Of course the little girl’s mother was in on the secret, and was prepared for what was inevitable. What she wasn't prepared for, though, was the intense excitement and happiness of her daughter when the child’s attention was focused on the four little balls of fur lying in a tight and precise row beside their contented mother.

The little girl spent hours and hours watching the care and attention that the new mother gave her charges. A rough tongue washed four faces, cleaned sixteen paws, four tails and smoothed four various colored backs. This she accomplished, as well as cleaning herself, with a loud and constant purr. Time flew by and homes were found for the four little kittens, but the memory of her first love of cats stayed with the child for all the rest of her life.

Toward the end of the nineteen-twenties the parents, and their now fully recovered daughter, found it necessary to move to the city where the father might find work. They had to leave Tootsie in another loving home, but not without a few tears along the way.

Once settled in the new city apartment, the longing for a pet was again very apparent. All the daughter, who was by this time a busy high school student, could think of, was the love and friendship she had known and enjoyed and was so sorely missed. Certainly another cat had to be found.

A distant relative who lived in a nearby town raised Maltese cats, and they had a new litter they were willing to share. This time “Teddy” arrived on the scene. No more kittens could be accommodated in the new setting, so a boy-cat seemed to be the answer. Teddy grew fat and sleek in the small living quarters, but wasn’t allowed outside to roam near the busy streets. He spent many hours sitting by the window and voiced an occasional complaint when something outside caught his fancy.

Luck was with him, however, and before many years went by, the family returned to the country and once again occupied the cottage where the young woman had grown up. Naturally Teddy went along and he was delighted with his new freedom to explore the fascinating countryside. Alas, though, this was to be his undoing because one summer night after he had been several anxious days, he returned home dragging a hind leg. Close inspection revealed a small hole right through his leg but the bone was not broken. It was obvious that a shot had ended some midnight serenading. Proper care, and good nursing resulted in a satisfactory recovery though Teddy never could quite bend his leg as before, especially when he tried to scratch that itching ear. In his travels he must have picked up a germ or two and several years later he died of what was probably some kind of cat “pneumonia.”

Again the loss was keenly felt by the young woman. She had a rewarding job by this time following her graduation from high school and this seemed to adequately fill her days. But, lo and behold, something new and wonderful was suddenly added to her life in the person of a tall, dark and handsome young man. As luck would have it, the work that he did took him to many farms in all parts of the state. It wasn’t long before he realized how much the family, especially his girlfriend, wished for another kitten.

One bright and sunny weekend he made his usual visit…and, you guessed it, brought with him a very small tabby kitten with beautiful black tortoiseshell markings. Joy was once more evident as “Peter” grew into an affectionate, one-man, or rather one-woman cat. The only trouble was that he had taken to, not the young woman as has been expected, but to her aging mother. Peter’s favorite perch was wrapped around the older woman’s shoulder and neck as she sat at her sewing machine. Very likely she was hunched over her work more than was really necessary so that she would not dislodge her purring live fur-piece.

This pose, Peter had adopted only after carefully removing the required number of pins and needles from the nearby pin cushion. No one ever figured out why he did this, but it was a daily routine and the evacuated pins were all over the floor as well as on the side of the sewing machine. How he picked up the head of each pin with his tiny front teeth, then gave a quick jerk of his head to toss it away, was a lesson he must have taught himself. Needles were another matter, but the principle seemed to be the same. He never got one caught in his mouth or tongue.

When Peter was not occupied with this fascinating pastime, he would follow the older woman as she went into the vegetable garden to begin the spring weeding. She sat diligently on an overturned wooden box so she could reach the ground more easily. The box would also always be occupied by the tortoiseshell cat while the sun glinted off his sides and turned the black markings into jewel-like obsidian. He seemed to make it his particular responsibility to monitor this most un-cat-like procedure. Just a few years before the parents of the young woman left for a warmer climate, he disappeared and was never seen again. The chances were that his nightly serenading at some unknown location somewhere had resulted in a more accurate response than that of his predecessor, Teddy.

By now a whole new chapter was developing in the country cottage. The young woman had married her “tall, dark and handsome” young man. She continued her fulfilling job while her husband continued to visit the many farms in his regular schedule. Their lives were dramatically changed one cold spring day when a baby girl arrived to accent the love and affection of the new family. Cats were put on ‘hold’ while the young couple took pleasure in their new role.

Again a move, this time to their own home a few miles away, was the start of a whole new life. Busy with a growing family which by now included a baby boy, there was little time left to think about kittens or cats. But, as always, the desire for a pet was still in the back of their minds. The husband who still traveled to farms around the state, came home one evening with a tiny golden yellow cat with a crooked tail. He explained to the family that its tail had been run over by a farm cart and the workmen had threatened to dispose of the kitten. The very tip of its tail had been broken and apparently dropped off leaving the remainder of the tail in a permanent crook. “Goldie” soon became the beloved pet of the two children as well as their parents. A litter of kittens every so often didn’t seem to cause any major problems. There were always neighbors and friends who wanted a furry kitten, all the while teaching a valuable lesson to the small children emphasizing compassion, caring and responsibility for animal friends.

At least this was the case until another major change took place in the expanding family. This time the arrival of twin girls caused adjustments of a tremendous nature. The mother was so busy with her children that she made no protest at the father's suggestion that they find a new home for Goldie and her newest contribution of four kittens. Unceremoniously, the golden cat and her family were bundled off to a farm many miles away where the hunting for mice would be good and she would be sure to stay with her newest litter, all the while enjoying the abundance of farm fresh milk.

The months went on and the oldest daughter started to attend school not far away. They all missed Goldie but were sure it was for the best. On a warm summer afternoon, the young first-grader came racing home screaming at the top of her lungs. “There’s a cat up at the corner and I think it’s Goldie!” She was absolutely right since the crooked tail was undeniable proof that it was the same cat. It was hard to believe that she had been away nearly a year, so quickly did she settle back into her former home. She never did have another litter of kittens and for more than ten years she shared space and affection with the four children and their parents as well as with "Taffy" a mixed-breed puppy, who became the special companion of the boy.

Goldie liked the outdoors, but never went very far from home. One day she was seen standing on the sidewalk across the street, and was heard meowing loudly and pitifully. She seemed not to know exactly where she was, and appeared hesitant to attempt to cross the street toward home. One of the girls went to her, picked her up, and carried her into the house. From then on, it seemed she was having difficulty in getting around. She would run head-long into the baseboard of the walls in the rooms. When, eventually, she could not find her litter box and had several accidents, it was time to make the decision to take a trip to the veterinarian for a final visit. Once the sad deed was accomplished, the family settled down to life without a feline pet.

A series of strays and contributions from friends filled the gap and became a constant stream. The father and mother drove home  one afternoon from an assignment at a distant farm, and nestled in  her lap was a soft yellow kitten. Its long orange colored fur was reminiscent of the never forgotten Goldie. Everyone remarked how lucky it was to have a good home provided for it, so naturally its  name became “Lucky.” Unfortunately, its name did not hold up for very long. After a worse than usual neighborhood fight, it received a serious bite right at the base of its tail. No effort of good nursing care and the attention of a caring vet was enough to overcome the fatal infection that resulted.

          Once more another yellow cat arrived upon the scene to be called “Topaz” because of his jewel-like coloring. No one ever recalled how the family came to have him. What they did remember, however, was that he loved to ride in the family car. The mother was working nearby but was without a car of her own most of the time. The twin daughters were old enough by this time to drive, so each afternoon one of them would go pick up their mother from work. The minute the car door was open, Topaz would jump into the front seat and perch up on the back of the seat calmly surveying the countryside. No one remembered what became of him, but he was no longer around.

While wondering where the next cat was coming from, a next door family kindly offered one of their litter of kittens. This time a light colored one was the choice and because of his color, “Sandy” seemed to fit him perfectly. An unusual personality trait developed in Sandy. His favorite occupation was to retrieve anything tossed in his direction, preferably a rolled-up piece of foil. He soon became especially attached to the son in the family and followed him about the house waiting for a chance to have a slapping fight. He slept on the boy’s bed most of the time, and in the morning he would use a gentle tap of his paw on the boy's face to wake him. After several happy years, he refused to eat and was indeed very ill. The kindly veterinarian was sure he had been poisoned, but it was never discovered how this had happened. All efforts failed to reverse the tragic circumstance and the end could not be changed. His loss was felt by all, especially by the son, as Sandy had never endeared himself to the female members of the household.

“Patty” was next in line and stayed with the family long enough to have several litters of kittens. The first she had were apparently when she was too young as they were born dead…right in the middle of one of the children’s beds! One can hardly imagine what a commotion this caused. She soon redeemed herself by having another four, and the family tried desperately to find homes for them. One kitten was pure white and quite a surprise as no one had ever seen a white tom in the area. The mother's fondest wish for many years had been to have a white cat, so “Frostee” stayed, to the delight of everyone. His china-blue eyes sparkled in the snowy white cotton of his fur. His mother had trained him very well to use his litter box, but he soon developed a rather unique habit. As a very young kitten he decided he would invent his own private litter box. The bathroom seemed to be the logical place to establish his own personal accommodation. The bathtub with its convenient drain hole, never needed to be excavated or covered up. Anyone present in the room could hear his little contribution trickling down the handy receptacle. When only a year old, Frostee became very weak and it was soon discovered that he had feline anemia, fairly common to many white cats. The vet could do nothing for him and he soon became history, another page in the book of the fourteen cats.

Patty came to the rescue again and presented the family with two more mackerel-striped tabby kittens, both females. She was an excellent provider and would often bring home mice and other delicacies. Of course the kittens were too young to eat this grown up food so the family quietly disposed of her well-meant supplies. One day she failed to come home from one of these forays and her two tiny kittens were left squalling for food all morning. When the children came home from school they brought with them some very sad news. Patty had been found on a nearby street, obviously run over by a passing car. She had a tiny baby rabbit in her mouth, a good provider to the end. Now the problem became what to do with the little orphans. The mother in the family decided to try her hand at feeding them with a medicine dropper full of diluted milk, and later with tastes of strained baby meats. This was very successful and the kittens continued to grow and develop.

One of the kittens had extra toes on her front paws so naturally she became known as "Boxer." Her sister, by far the prettier of the two, had the misfortune to be under the family car when the father hurriedly backed out of the driveway one morning with no suspicion of the presence of the little cat sleeping under the car. With suitable ceremony the little one was laid to rest beside Patty in the family's flower bed. 

Boxer stayed with the family for several more years and a litter of new kittens arrived on schedule every so often. When it got to be a problem to find homes for all of them, another farm was called into service. Boxer and her latest family were moved to a large dairy farm where she was needed and wanted for her ability to catch mice and where there would be plenty of good rich milk.

Though her loss was felt by everyone, there were new and other interests gaining attention. The children were nearly grown up, had boy-friends and girl-friends and the time soon came when they would leave for their own homes not too far distant. First, the oldest girl left and was followed very soon by the son who was to serve six months in the army following his graduation from high school. While he was away, the puppy Taffy, of his childhood, had died. The first thing he did upon arriving home was, of course, to find another dog. The bird-dog puppy he brought home was so small it fit in the palm of his hands. “Queenie” grew into a large and beautiful black and white English setter and a true member of the family.

Queenie didn’t quite take the place of the cats of so many years, but she was a loving and faithful family pet. The three children still at home were busy with their own plans. First one of the twin girls was married and moved away…then the very next year, both the other daughter and the son were making plans for their coming marriages and homes of their own in new locations.

Until Queenie could be settled in the son’s new home, she was left in her run at the rear of the home of his parents and in their tender and watchful care. The mother fed, watered and enjoyed the company of the lovely big dog. One Saturday afternoon she came home from a half day’s work, looked out into the dog run from the dining room windows, and discovered that it was entirely empty. Her son had said something about taking the dog with him to his new home, but hadn’t said just when that would be. It had happened now, though, and the mother turned away from the windows, and burst into tears. It was truly an “empty nest” for the first time.

The oldest daughter was well established in her own home with a daughter of her own, but she sensed her mother’s unhappiness and knew she missed having a pet of some sort around to ease the loneliness since the father still travelled around the state. She came to the rescue one cold winter afternoon and left a small gray kitten on the living room couch for her mother to find. Such a beautiful solid gray kitten needed to be called "Dusty" and soon she settled into the parents' home. By this time the couple felt that since no more kittens were needed, they would carefully keep their companion in the house at the crucial times.

This worked very well until they moved to a new home further out in the country. While they were busy getting the house in order, Dusty had her own ideas of how to spend the day. In the usual course of events she decided to have a family herself! The weeks went by and soon the indications became apparent that she would soon become a mother cat, but strangely no kittens arrived when the expected signs were observed. In a hurried visit to a new veterinarian in the area, it was determined that a cesarean operation would be necessary at once. The mother left her pet in his capable hands and went off to work in a very worried state of mind.  Upon returning from work that evening she stopped at the animal clinic and brought Dusty home with two tiny kittens. Three others could not be saved, but two were enough for the new mother cat to handle, especially since she had had such a trying experience. 

Though these two kittens were Dusty’s first and only family, she instinctively knew just what to do and they grew fat and playful. Soon a friend offered a home to one of them and the couple decided to keep the other one with its mother. This one was a solid glossy black cat with a white star on her throat. The sleek and velvet-like coat left no doubt as to what her name should be. “Velvet” seemed a most appropriate name. It wasn’t possible to keep both cats inside all the time and since Dusty would never have any more kittens and Velvet was too young yet to have an operation, they were allowed to roam at will. this turned out to be a big mistake as Velvet, before she was a year old, ventured on the busy road and met the predictable end. Dusty was left alone but offered many hours of pleasure and companionship to the couple who were getting along toward their older years.

Then, wouldn’t you know it, another chapter in the cat chronicle was soon to unfold. It was a bitter cold night in February that the woman returned home from a too-long committee meeting. The blue station wagon was comfortably warm and she was extremely grateful for the electric garage door opener. Just a press of a button and she would be able to drive right into the basement without having to get out in the freezing wind and snow to fight with a stiff and heavy garage door.

Once under the porch overhang, she pressed the spot on the electronic box and the heavy door rose obligingly and effortlessly. The car slid quietly inside the house earlier. Perhaps that was a mistake and she had somehow sneaked out unobserved. The “meow” was then repeated, this time a little louder and distinctly plaintive. Sure now that it didn’t sound quite like her Dusty, she turned and headed back toward the still-open door calling, “Well, where are you?”

Immediately came the answering “meow,” louder and much more insistent. Following the direction from which the sound seemed to come, she then saw a pair of glowing eyes reflected by the garage light. The source of the cries was now apparent. A cat sat hunched on a pile of old used burlap bags which were kept handy for various garden and household needs. The woman ventured closer, talking all the while, as she was uncertain what sort of reception she might receive from her midnight visitor. 

Would the cat flee at her approach or flash out a claw-raking paw toward her outstretched hand? With still no sign of “flight or fight,” she reached out to pat the pure white head, out of which a pair of china-blue eyes gazed intently at her. At once another sound became audible–the loudest purr she had ever heard! It seemed they were fast friends already. As her fingers stroked the ears, down the neck and shoulders and along the back, the woman could feel each back bone, covered only thinly by the once white fur and skin. She was appalled by the extreme thinness of the body. The hair was matted and dirty as well. The cat continued to purr loudly and stretched up to rub along the woman’s arm. It seemed to be an adult cat, but was the scrawniest one she had ever seen.

She thought of her own sleek and plump lady upstairs, and just did not have the heart to shoo her new friend away and out into the bitter cold night. Gathering her up on one arm she carried her to the kitchen. The little waif seemed unafraid and when put down, wound provocatively around the legs of her benefactor. Some warm milk was soon fixed for her which she lapped quickly but daintily. She wasn't given too much at one time, as total starvation had not been very far off, and it seemed to be the order of the evening.

A new problem had to be confronted. Could the woman possibly put this friendly transient out in the winter night? One could not be sure what her house manners were, or how she would be received by the resident cat. On a sudden inspiration, the woman carried “Friendly” back to the pile of burlap bags and left her with a saucer of warm milk and bread. In the morning, if the cat was still there, she would have to decide what to do, but she was pretty sure already what that decision would probably be.

Early the next morning the woman went to see if her visitor was still there. Of course, Friendly was, and now her short white fur seemed neater and cleaner, and even appeared to cover her bony frame a bit more. A quick trip to the refrigerator produced a few bites of leftover chicken which she devoured hungrily, but still very politely. With many more weeks of careful feeding Friendly would be quite a beauty when she filled out a little more. Her bright blue eyes were clear and sharp, offset by the stark white fur; she would be a delight to any artist. The chicken tidbits were polished off without delay, and the cat at once sat down by the woman’s feet and began to wash her face and paws carefully and deliberately. When she was finished she began a tour of the rest of the house.

The living room couch seemed to draw her to it, or perhaps it was the spot of warm winter sun which shone strongly through the east-facing picture window. At any rate, Friendly jumped gracefully upon the couch and continued her morning cleanup, still purring loudly. She acted as if she had always lived in this particular home. When she finally finished with her thorough grooming, the grey cat moved warily toward the newcomer and gave her a complete once-over. At last they touched noses and Dusty went archly back to the kitchen and to her own bowl of food.

The two cats seemed to get along quite well after each had established her own domain. The big black Labrador Retriever, who had joined the family just a short time before, seemed to enjoy the pair of cats. While the dog, “Gemma,” had not played with Dusty very much, she seemed to find the younger cat more to her liking and romped often with her.

The humans occupying the house didn’t really feel they needed two cats, so Friendly was reluctantly given away to a new family where she would be with other animals and where the mistress had expressed a desire for a white cat. Not many weeks after this, Dusty failed to thrive and if they had known they would soon lose Dusty, they would never have had to find another home for Friendly and she would have been able to spend the rest of her life in the surroundings that she had chosen that cold winter night.

The saddened couple resigned themselves to a home without a pet cat, relieved only the presence of the glossy black dog, who also seemed to miss her companion and playmate. She, too, was getting along in years, but continued to be the loving third member of the household.

Fate again had another chapter in store for the three of them…man, woman, and dog. One dark and blustery evening the woman parked her car in the lot behind her church in preparation to attending a meeting of the women's organization. Out of the darkness she saw a shape at the top of the metal stairs along the outside wall of the church. Upon closer investigation, a young, long-haired cat tripped down the staircase meowing a "hello" at every step. When spoken to, it came quickly to her side and rubbed affectionately around her ankles. She picked it up, surprised to see that it was a dark orange color, so reminiscent of the Goldie of long ago.

With a distinct feeling of nostalgia, she put the cat down and went on to her meeting. She didn’t see it again that evening, but a few days later she learned that a young woman had also seen the cat, took pity on it, and was feeding and giving it shelter in the warm kitchen of the building. It hung around for several weeks and all efforts to find its owner with newspaper ads, telephone calls, and word of mouth, failed to discover where it belonged.

One Sunday morning after church service, someone remarked that the cat was staying in a nearby storm drain to avoid some thoughtless children who had been pelting it with stones.  This was too much for the couple! With the aid of the younger woman, they coaxed the cat out of his hideaway. The question was not what to do with it. The man and woman offered to take the vagabond to a shelter not far away. They, themselves, had decided not to take on any more cat responsibilities. The decision was agreed upon and the woman held it in her arms while the man drove in the direction of the animal shelter.

On the way down the busy highway with the cat held firmly against her, the woman soon discovered that this cat must have had some special care and attention and it appeared to be quite valuable. Its front paws had been de-clawed and it was altered. Its long, rust-colored hair was smooth and clean with no mats. The beautiful fluffy tail had no tangles either. How he had ever become a stray couldn’t be imagined. It seemed that someone must have spent quite a bit of money on him and why his owner could not be found was a decided mystery.

The woman took one look at her husband, announced what her discovery had been regarding the stray’s condition, and asked the question, “Shall we?” Without another word, he turned the car around and they headed for home. Upon arriving home, “Rusty” was introduced to the Lab who really seemed glad to see him. That evening when Rusty was settled confidently on the woman’s lap the Lab came near to get better acquainted, sat down beside them, and put an inquiring nose beside the cat. Rusty gave her a no nonsense pat on her muzzle and proceeded to ignore any more overtures of friendship. Without claws no harm was done, but it certainly served to announce who was boss in that establishment.

Rusty was taken to the veterinarian for the necessary inoculations and he observed that he thought the cat was a very young adult, perhaps about a year old. It was felt that he was very likely a Maine Coon breed, as he did not have the usual Persian head, but did have quite long hair. One thing was discovered, though, was that Rusty did not like to ride in a car for any distance whatever. From then on, the dog and cat got along very well, and it seemed obvious that he had been raised with a dog in the same way that the Lab had been raised with cats.

In a few years, Gemma, the Lab, died after giving fifteen years of pleasure to the man and his wife and their many family members. Rusty was all that was left to share the home with the aging couple. Bereft of his claws and his interest in the lady cats, he was happy to be an inside cat and seemed content to watch the squirrels playing on the lawn. He often saw all kinds of birds as they flitted to and fro in their never-ending search for food and nesting materials.

Because he, himself, was originally a stray, had found sanctuary first in the storm drain of the local church parking lot, and later in the home of a loving couple of older folks, he didn't seem to miss the pleasures of mouse-chasing and bird-catching. He was content to eat and sit around getting plump. During daytime, he followed the woman wherever she went and evenings were spent curled upon the man's lap while television programs were enjoyed by the adults. 

For several years a little slate-colored phoebe with its darker colored head had made a nest over the automatic door under the screened porch that led into the spacious basement garage. On a dark and windy March evening the couple arrived home and prepared to put the car away for the night. The minute the electronic button was pushed, the large and heavy door began to rise promptly and they headed into the area. All at once a bird flew ahead of the car, not out into the black night as it should have done, but went directly ahead of the car and into the cellar.

The man and woman parked the car, but left the door open hoping that their unexpected visitor would go back outside. Instead, it flew wildly and frantically around in the large area. It banged against the wall, first on one side, then on the other, alighted momentarily on the winter clothesline. It defied all efforts to shoo it outside. At one time the woman thought she would be able to surprise it and catch it when it landed for an instant against a protruding light fixture, but to no avail. After about fifteen minutes of fruitless attempts to catch the feathered creature, all became quiet with no more fluttering, and the couple assumed the little bird had finally flown out the big open doorway.

When the garage door was finally shut, they went upstairs where Rusty had been complaining bitterly at the delay in opening the kitchen door which led to the main floor. Bedtime came and everyone settled down for the night. The woman carefully put away the crystal gift which she had received at the evening's festivities, and decided she would examine it more closely in the morning. Rusty curled up in his usual spot on the bed and purred himself to sleep with the human occupants.

Just about dawn the woman awoke to make her usual early morning trip to the bathroom. She glanced down to where Rusty was sitting so quietly beside her. As her eyes became more accustomed to the brightening light, she noticed a dark area beside the cat. Oh, no, she thought–he had either had an accident or had been sick! When she gingerly touched the spot, it suddenly moved, fluttered toward the window, and became entangled in the sheer curtain. Guessing immediately what had happened, that the bird had been in the house all the time, she carefully got out of bed and approached the window with its curtained prisoner. With infinite care, she held the little bird in one hand and slowly but carefully disentangled the surrounding material. She was not sure if it was injured so held it securely, but not too tightly. She then padded barefoot across the cold linoleum kitchen floor to the back door.

Very slowly and quietly she opened the door, and one by one raised her fingers to release the tiny thing. Instantly it flew out and into the early morning sunlight, apparently unharmed. With a sigh of relief and a slight shiver, she turned and climbed back into bed where Rusty was still waiting. Then, suddenly, it hit her! How was it possible that the bird was still alive even though the cat most surely had caught it and brought it to her in the night.

Cats are known to frequently bring their treasures home, but usually more the worse for wear! This was indeed a small miracle. Could it have been because Rusty, himself, had experienced the small miracle of a good home so many years ago and his natural instincts were somehow sidetracked in appreciation? Instead of killing the bird, had he brought it where it might receive the attention he had known?

Now something else caught the attention of his mistress. Something glinted on the bed-cover and she then looked more closely to see what it was. A tiny gray feather lay smooth and undamaged beside the cat. She retrieved it, lest it be lost amid the blankets and she would save it as a token of the incredible experience.

Later that morning the couple looked again at the gift from the evening before. The object was a little crystal box in the shape of a miniature chest, and of all things, the lid was adorned with an amazing, perfectly formed, little bird. What better place in which to preserve the reminder of such a small miracle, so the tiny feather was carefully laid in the box.

Rusty never learned to enjoy riding in the family car, and howled dejectedly on the few times he was forced by circumstances to take a trip in his own comfortable carrier. Most of the time he stayed at home and a good neighbor was willing to come and feed him and replenish his water as it was needed.

Rusty always enjoyed the big screened and glassed-in porch of his home. He spent hours on the lounge chair in its corner and sometimes on the woman’s lap. Evenings were also spent on someone’s lap only this time it was on the man’s lap–the only cat that had ever accomplished this feat.

Of course the time had to come when as an older cat he became ill and several spasms happened which the veterinarian could no longer do anything to help. After one very severe convulsion the final step had to be taken.

As this ended the saga of the “Fourteen Cats” the aging couple reluctantly said “NO” to any more pets, much to the regret of the man and especially of the woman.

Remembering...

A Christmas Gift from my friend who lives in Hawaii arrived December 2012. In 2016 this new plant, cut from the top of the original, grew its own fruit, with the help of another friend who lives in SC. It took 3 1/3 years for "Pacifica's Offspring" to arrive on the mainland. A 5 minute photo story.

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Watch it grow! 

Friday, October 7, 2022

Rejuvenated!

Today was a day of joy for me. My friend from HI came to visit when she was in PA visiting her sister and brother and their families. I haven't seen her in several years due to Covid. Unfortunately we stayed out on the front porch because she had a feeling of sniffles coming on and neither one of us wanted to take any chances of closer contact. It didn't matter as we reminisced and enjoyed time together. Yes, it was brisk! She brought me two lovely gifts. One a pineapple ornament and the other a hand soap pump with nourishing and botanical ingredients. It smells GREAT!

Then my local daughter and her husband unexpectedly arrived! They have both recovered from serious cases of Covid and she is working on ambulating after her recent hip surgery. They had been to the orchard and brought me Macoun apples! My VERY favorite! The ladies of course knew each other as they practically grew up together when they were younger. Wonderful that they stopped in!
After they all left I was feeling ambitious so got myself together with determination to get those empty windows covered with the clean curtains. It was difficult with only one arm that can reach up, but with the help of a flashlight, two clothespins, and perseverance I got 'er done! Made a difference. That's one long flimsy rod! See before and after.
And....the plant is still in attack mode! I wonder why it is acting so much like humans by threatening others!!!!
Just bloom and get it over with!

It is only 50° and raw out. No buggy rides for another few days, I guess. I plan for it to leave home November 1 for winter storage. 
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Thursday, October 6, 2022

Early October Colors


It reached 65° here this morning and wasn't raining so I grabbed my scarf, gloves, hat and jacket and took Buggy out with the camera.

I know there will be muddy puddles to avoid but the air felt clear and I need some. It has been very difficult these last two weeks without my eyeglasses and I took pictures anyway. My new lenses had better come in soon because it is frustrating to use the camera without good eyesight! I had to leave the old glasses as I didn't want the expense of new frames. Now I regret that! 

First are the wild turkeys... they gobbled at me and I gobbled back. It was fun! If you look closely you will see that they are where they are due to bird feeders nearby. Soon after I took the photos, they ran up into the woods behind the home.

The rest are shots of nearby trees and bushes that have some color but not at all like their usual burst of glory.

Blogger had something gone askew and my individual images won't upload so.....I made a short slide show!

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Wednesday, October 5, 2022

Yesterday...

Yesterday I noticed that my plant with the promising blossom is acting strangely. It looks as if it plans to attack its neighbor! I didn't take a picture of it today but the stalk of the blossom is in a really twisted shape just like a very tall capital S! I don't think this is normal behavior!

I was feeling a bit ambitious yesterday, knowing I need to move more instead sitting so much. I prepared meals for the future and now have stored main courses for six more dinners in the freezer.  I know how to avoid the cleanup of the baking pan however, without purchasing the throw-away kind! It's been a long time since I've enjoyed stuffed shells!
I  apologize for the overly red coloring. I had to use the flash to take this shot as it came out of the oven so late! I think the foil reflected the light and I don't like the result, but too late to correct!
One thing I still have to do is get the rest of the clean curtains up over three more windows. I've been able to achieve that with a few already but the last three are very difficult for me to reach and hook with only one arm  There is also a couch and a chair in the way. It is a challenge and I'm going to go at it later.  (I wasn't going to put up curtains this season but I miss the cozy feeling they give me.)
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Tuesday, October 4, 2022

Mother's Story


This seems to be the best way for me to pass on words and thoughts written by my mother. She wasn't a professional writer but her stories, though long and sometimes 'wordy' do hit the mark. She had a dream of being a nurse. My sister became a registered nurse and that made her so proud.

All Wool and a Yard Wide

The fabric of one’s life consists of many different kinds of threads and comes in so many different colors. The gray of winter mountains soon becomes a kaleidoscope of hundreds of shades of green. The azure blue of the sky is mirrored in the deeper blue of a quiet lake. The ivory of the early dogwood blossoms, the shad bush’s foamy clouds dot the evergreen hills. The scarlet, gold and deep reds of fall make a last effort to prepare one for the more somber days of winter.

There is one color, however, that outshines all the others and it is that of the nurses’ white. True, they don’t all wear the traditional uniforms and cap of yesteryear, but none the less, the devotion and concern are remained unchanged.

Many years ago one of these dedicated women sat beside the bed of a tiny girl who was desperately ill with pneumonia. Wrapped in her winter coat, the nurse carefully watched her patient while the cold winter wind blew through the open window beside the bed. This action had seemed to be the only thing that helped the little girl's breathing. There were no antibiotics then in the 1900's! They both survived the ordeal and the nurse remained in the parent's grateful memories for many years.

In only seven more years, the same ugly disease hit again and this time a graduate of our own Morristown Memorial Hospital came to the little country town to do twenty–four hour duty. Still no antibiotics, but mustard plasters and flaxseed poultices turned the disease away. The recovered child was so fond of the nurse that she kept up a correspondence with her for several years to come.

The child grew up to graduate from high school. While in her senior year, the school nurse started a nurses’ club which inspired many of the members to consider the nursing profession for their life’s work. This was not to be accomplished for the young club member because the dread depression had hit her parents and the girl’s goal was not to be reached. Once again the school nurse helped her student to find a job which resulted working for another nurse in the county office of the New Jersey Tuberculosis League.

Life went on, the colors of the threads changed with the appearance of a tall, dark and handsome man. The new family grew, first with the coming of a daughter, then a son, and finally a set of twin girls. After their arrival, there was another problem, and once again the need for an expert who was specially qualified saved the day. This nurse not only cared for her patient, but helped to get the meals and look after the other necessary duties of the household.

The fabric of the family soon smoothed out and returned to the many colors of the threads of its various members. With the growing demands on the income, it was decided that the mother would like to try a job, and where did she look first—to a hospital, of course. The pull was still there to be near the white of the nursing profession.

Soon the contacts settled into an office position in the old Morristown Memorial Hospital (M.M.H.) location. A new and larger facility was in the planning and the move was anticipated in the near future. Once in the new building, the many duties of her office gave the office worker one of the best memories she was to ever experience. Her occasional contact with the Director of Nursing Services was, to her mind, the epitome of the ideal nurse. The Director’s tall, stately carriage in her high-necked starched white uniform with the cap of her alma mater secure on her dark brown hair would always remain an inspiration to many with whom this individual came in contact.

The time came when extra work was no longer needed for the family’s finances. The children were all out of school; the son in the armed services, the daughter in nursing school (no undue influence, honestly), and marriages in the offing for the rest of the children. Now retirement could be enjoyed with time available for volunteer work, travel, gardening and anticipating the arrival of grandchildren.

A cruel tear in the fabric of the woman’s life came with the discovery of a lump in one breast. The diagnosis of the dreaded word “CANCER” changed the pattern of the life’s threads to dark and forbidding designs. Prompt intervention by a wonderful surgeon and his staff kept the disease at bay for several more years until a recurrence showed up in the other breast. Once more the routine was repeated and faded from memory—or so it was thought.

Fate, however, had other ideas, and professional help was needed. This time there was a dramatic change in the persons involved. A totally new concept in cancer care had been initiated in the fast expanding hospital. 

The Woman’s Cancer Center was staffed by a uniquely qualified special surgeon, a nurse practitioner, and assistant office persons. This new service dealt with the whole patient. This service was soon to benefit the woman whose fears had all but convinced her that it would be better to "let nature take its course." Following an especially perceptive interview with the doctor and later with the nurse practitioner, it was decided to go ahead with the necessary hysterectomy. 

A quick and uneventful recovery restored the nearly eighty-year old woman to the fabric of her life with her husband of almost sixty years. They would continue to weave their lives, not always all wool nor a yard wide, but the many colors of the rainbow would continue to appear much as before.

The predominant color of their life’s fabric would continue and would always be the pure white of the nurses’ cap and uniform. Perhaps it would not always be as visible as it once was, but through the many colors and materials of today’s world, the white would always shine—the true symbol of the many women who in the past had formed the fabric of this woman’s life.


Pauline F. Nulton  August 17, 1994 

 

Published January 30, 1995 Women’s Cancer Center by Jane C, Moore, Editor of “A Detour in the Road of Life”

Monday, October 3, 2022

Odds 'n Ends

It's catchup time. Yes, I have baked lately. Gave several away and froze the rest.

If you never flicked off the seeds of a sunflower, do it! Fun and easy. Gave me satisfaction! Stored in jar. Feed the birds? Nah, I'll let my daughter do that.
See the bowl? My Pot Guy, together with Candle Gal have made up more candles for autumn shows. He is now using a treadle wheel and making all kinds of cups, casserole dishes, pie plates, bowls with covers, tea cups and more. I might get me a casserole dish. (My collection of his art is growing!)
AND...Blow horn!!!!! My grandson's pumpkins, though not huge are nice ones and no rot on the bottoms. Soon they will be yard decorations. Here they were on their way to be weighed. One is 650 lbs. and the other is 580 lbs.
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Sunday, October 2, 2022

The Writing of PFN - Dress

 The Dress

The early morning sun was blazing in the bedroom window as the young woman awoke with a start. This was the day! She had waited many years for just this occasion, and it was doubly important this time. Just a dozen years ago the ivory colored dress, which hung so carefully pressed in the guest room closet, she herself had worn for a very special day with indescribable joy and pride.

Herb-like fragrance floated in the bedroom window, and she soon realized it must be coming from the golden marigolds planted and growing just beneath the window. How fitting it all seemed! The many shades of yellow, orange and gold seemed made for the plan she had in mind to make a bright arrangement for the center of the table, where they would be sitting for dinner. She arose quickly and dressed carefully in her own blue summer frock. There was so much to be done before noon, but she was eager to begin what had been looked forward to for so many weeks.

She moved softly so as not to disturb her sleeping parents, and tip-toed down the hall toward the guest room, quietly took the dress from its hanger, and held it in her hands. The silk was still soft and smooth, yet with a slight feel of crispness. The little star pattern was just as clear and sharp as the day the dress had been first worn on that hot afternoon so very long ago. How wonderful to know that the woman who rested quietly beside her husband would still fit into its many folds and tucks!

The passing years had been kind to them, though not without some crushing disappointments, some patience-trying setbacks, but all was balanced now by the day that had been so long awaited. The young woman glanced toward the bed, with its double wedding ring quilt covering the resting couple, and saw that the slanting rays of the early morning sun were golden against the sparse fringe of the man’s white hair. The rays then reached over toward the left hand of the woman and touched the gold circle on the wrinkled finger. How fitting it all seemed for this day of days! She knew that the inscription on the inside of the gold band read “Schoolmate, Sweetheart, Wife” and it, in itself, told the story of the couple’s long life together.

Almost as if on a pre-arranged ethereal signal, both the man and woman opened alert, wide eyes, and their gaze fell upon the younger woman. Their glances met, and magically, a knowing smile spread across each face. This was the day! They had made it! Together! This was the milestone that had been so long awaited, talked about, and so carefully planned.

“Good morning, Mother and Father. Happy Golden Anniversary!”


The Dress ~Part Two~ The Dream


She got up stiffly from the breakfast table, eager to start the task before her. It would take some time to press the dress which hung in the hall closet, much longer than it had taken her on the previous occasions when this same task she had performed with such loving care and anticipation. Her fingers were thin and gnarled and her shoulder would undoubtedly bother her she knew, but it would be worth every bit of effort to do this one last thing before she gave the dress away, never more to see it worn as it had been so many times before.

Could it be possible that the ivory, silken folds were nearly one hundred years old? It had seen that first glorious day when it had been worn by the other woman, now long gone, but fondly remembered; worn again for the same purpose more than three decades later, then twice more to celebrate half centuries of the closeness the two women had experienced with their chosen life-companions.

She got the ironing board from the pantry and connected the new iron with its fancy gadgets. She was careful to set the heat at a temperature which would not harm the delicate fabric. She thought, as she worked, how sorry she had felt when none of the daughters had shown any interest in wearing the gown on their own special days. Well, never mind, they had each asked to have a dress made which she herself had cut and sewed. That gesture had somehow helped to overcome her disappointment. Now, however, the time had come when she must give up what she had so carefully kept and preserved these many years, and pass on to younger hands the guardianship of a tradition that might, in years to come, hold for the wearer the mystical influence of love and devotion which seemed to be such an important part of so many lives.

The iron passed softly over the yellowed skirt, across the tucked blouse and down the tight sleeves. There! It was finished! The petticoat with its embroidered ruffle was folded carefully and placed on the kitchen chair beside the pointed kid shoes with the funny shaped heels and ribbon ties. She returned the dress to the hanger and gave it a last tender pat. Its shape blurred a bit before her eyes and she turned reluctantly away just in time to see the very young woman with the exuberance of a little kitten come bounding through the kitchen door. Her long golden hair bounced against her slender shoulders as she threw her arm around the older woman and gave her an affectionate hug.

“Thank you so much for giving me the wedding dress, Grandmother. I’ll always take care of it. Wish me luck today and perhaps I’ll be wearing it again fifty years from today.”


The Dress ~Part Three~ The Reality


Dreams do sometimes come true, at least in part. The real-life version can be more inspiring, more beautiful, more memorable than the plans that had lain dormant in the woman’s heart and mind for so many years.

The dress had made another appearance! Perhaps it was not quite in the same way than she had envisioned it, but it was unforgettable just the same in a more real and visual form.

Fiftieth anniversary parties were not too common. In the present day and age the woman and her husband had vowed to make the most of the occasion and to share the celebration with as many relatives, friends and acquaintances as could be gathered together on a busy summer Sunday.

A few disappointments were inevitable; the couple who recently had lost their oldest son could not make the long trip from a distant state because they had, just a few short weeks ago, had to make their sad journey to the same area. Another friend from years before was now a widow and lonesome in a far-distant town, but she sent part of herself woven into the bright and colorful handiwork. Still another couple who lived too far away to join the party telephoned with their message of love and remembrance. The thoughts of the long-time friends were with the recent widower, who in his own poor health, could not be numbered with the others who gathered in the spacious hall.

In front of the head table there hung the contribution of life-long friends. The handsome hand-crafted picture in gold and green and cream said “50 years” and represented so many hours of tedious work. Verbal appreciation seemed too terribly inadequate, but was voiced just the same.

Flowers were everywhere, in every conceivable shade of yellow and gold. Two tall white vases held those blooms which had just recently graced sanctuary of the small town church only hours before. Dear friends with loving thoughtfulness had brought other floral arrangements to the hall. On each of the nine dinner tables which were tastefully covered with gold colored tablecloths, a small white vase held some very special flowers. Who would have believed the impossible coincidence that had led the celebrating couple to stop in their mid-morning shopping trip and introduce themselves to an older man and woman who stood by a huge clump of the old fashioned flower “Golden Glow.”

“You don’t know me, and we don’t know you,” the woman had said with her heart in her mouth (for who welcomes strangers in their driveway in this day and age?) “but we have admired your flowers for several years. The same kind was used to decorate our home fifty years ago when we were married. We are able to celebrate our anniversary on Sunday and would like so much to be able to cut a few of yours to put on our dining tables.”

With a beautiful smile and gracious gesture, the older woman said that she, too, had had “golden glow” at her own wedding many years ago, and would be very willing and eager for the visitors to pick some. The coincidence didn’t stop there, however. Their family name was the same as the name of the one who had provided the flowers for the inquirer’s wedding! The dream had taken a most unexpected turn and the coincidence was almost more than could be believed. 

       Seventy-seven mouths were fed, seventy-seven hands shaken, hugs and kisses exchanged, the toast given and yet there was more to come. The duties of the master of ceremonies were superbly handled by the only son in the family. He introduced each of his three sisters and thanked them for their part in the festivities. One had provided the artistically decorated cake; one the little gold and white bird favors, and the other was still taking many still pictures which would go into the gift album.

The buzz of conversation quieted as the announcement was made that one of the younger granddaughters would soon be walking among the guests and she would be wearing “The Dress!" It was explained that several times before, the dress had been worn since its original appearance eighty-eight years before. Would it hold together? Would the stains of age and use spoil the effect? Would the lovely young girl wearing it feel silly and self-conscious, trip over the long skirt, or refuse to make an appearance at all? All these thoughts and fears went through the mind of the grandmother as she waited expectantly for the next move. Then it happened!

Gliding into the center of the hall she came as majestically as a queen to her court. Tall and slender, her brown hair in soft waves across her neck and shoulders, the young girl was the very picture of her great-grandmother, though not one among the assembled group could say, “I remember when she wore that dress.”

The neck of the two-piece deep ivory colored gown was held at the throat by a round old-fashioned hand-painted pin trimmed in gold, the proud possession of the original bride. The tight sleeves ended in a ribbon cuff and bow at the wrists. In her slim tapered fingers she held a small bouquet of the same golden flowers that were on the tables. This added touch, spontaneous in its originality by an interested helper, brought tears to many eyes. Under the skirt, though not seen by anyone, was the original petticoat with its many tucks and hand embroidery. The skirt itself hung smoothly and nearly touched the floor. It swayed gently as the model walked with slow measured steps with the practiced air of a trained mannequin. She smiled confidently to each admirer and then quietly left the hall.

The afternoon was over. The guests had gone. Once more “The Dress” has been carefully put away, to appear yet another time, we wonder? Will it be an inspiration to someone yet to come, to be worn at another celebration, another wedding? Who will be there to remember?


Pauline F. Nulton 

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*Notes by GMR, daughter of author, Pauline Nulton.


The Dress

First paragraph: 

Young woman refers to Pauline Nulton who had worn the dress on August 12, 1934 at her wedding. This was in preparation of her parent's celebration at her home in 1946.

Second paragraph:

Dinner refers to the 50th anniversary gathering for her parents at her home on August 12, 1946  in Morristown NJ. 


The Dress ~Part Two~ The Dream

Pauline’s fantasy thoughts and wishes written…


The Dress ~Part Three~ The Reality

Refers to the 50th anniversary gathering for her and her husband in the Masonic Hall in Flanders NJ.

…one of the younger granddaughters… refers to Laura Leigh Reed who wore and modeled the dress. 


The dress was donated to a historical society in the Budd Lake, NJ area according to what she told me around the year 2005.


The Rudbeckia, a/k/a “Golden Glow” mentioned in the story was once a perennial common ‘outhouse flower’ to screen the privy for late summer and fall bloom.  It was also called the ‘shithouse daisy.’

Rudbeckia laciniata ‘Hortensia’

Golden Glow



Lovingly known as the Outhouse Plant, this old heirloom selection of Coneflower is still seen in gardens today. Plants form a tall clump of bright-green leaves, bursting into color in summer, when loads of fluffy double chrome-yellow daisies appear.

Another source about the flower. Click on link below...

https://growyourflowers.com/golden-glow/


Saturday, October 1, 2022

The Dress

Today is my mother's 108th birthday. I honor her with this post because the celebration of my parent's 50th anniversary was one she planned and organized and was very happy when it all went so well.

When the 50th anniversary party was planned, there was to be a surprise for all to see. It was something she called "The Dress" and she wrote a long story about it many years ago. I will post that next blog. Get ready for a long read there!

The year of this event was 1984. 

Now to better explain the sequence. In 1896 my mother's parents were married on August 12. Their 50th anniversary was celebrated at our home with a casual dinner in the backyard with guests on August 12, 1946.

In 1934 my parents were married on August 12. Their 50th anniversary was celebrated at a Masonic Hall near their home on August 12, 1984 with many guests invited. I don't find a photo of her wearing the dress. She once told me she did, but no photos were taken.

The surprise at the 50th Anniversary party was my youngest daughter wearing the exact unaltered dress that, at the time was then 88 years old. She was thin enough at age 27 to model it well. The dress was eventually donated to a historical society in the Budd Lake NJ area in 2005, the year of her death.

The photos were all labeled by my mother and put in a hand-crafted album made by my sister Jeanette. I treasure that album. 

My brother was the Master of Ceremonies, my sister Jeanette, made dozens of white ceramic doves as table gifts for the guests. The dove has different meanings for marriage but mostly peace, devotion and love in this story. Today I have two. One is mine, the other was my parent's. My sister Joyce, provided the cake.  Years later I was given the pretty vase that was the 50th anniversary gift at my grandparents' anniversary celebration. It held yellow roses. I have my mother's wedding ring and I can see how thin it became and the best part is that I still can read the interior inscription— Tranquility GNN & PFD 8-12-'34.

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